Beauty - “I am Sorry”

 

Beauty - “I am Sorry” 

 

Right actions in the future are

the best apologies for bad actions in the past."

Tryon Edwards

 

Sitting crossed legs with shoe on, feet hanging above the floor, on the leg side of unusual high bed; all in one room – drawing, dinning, bed, guest, patient, living, doing nothing room, also wash room attached, full with so many,  asked one of my younger dear ones, sitting on a white plastic armed  chair next to me, to hand me over the remote of the TV that was lying on a sofa beneath the TV and just an arm’s length from him, but was replied with, “Pick up yourself”: thought it was just jokingly, asked once, asked  again for handing me over the remote: but was retorted in very angry voice high pitch: “You can’t give me  orders, you are in the habit of dictating.”, I was stunned; had no answer at all, was unable to apprehend, what had happened: what to do or not  to do, to avoid bickering unnecessary being a guest: so embarrassing it was: I appeared blank to myself: it was, “I am Sorry” repeated thrice from the core of my heart with all humility at my command, in distinctive audible voice, came handy and pacifying too: realized how beautiful these words are: they are more than this, when said for somebody else behalf, “ I am also Sorry”, they are so simple, known to everybody, so purposeful too.  A little later changed the topic and found, “I am sorry x 3” reached the correct destination with results prompt.

 

“I am sorry”, quickly and sincerely said, even if you do not consider yourself wrong is a wonderful tool for stress management, tension, anxiety, time management, happiness and to save situations getting ugly: it many a times sets the things right immediately, may be for the time being, providing the other time to rethink and cases are not uncommon when the other comes with solutions, responsibility, acceptance, realisation and clarity. It is valuing your relationships more than your ego and attitude that too negative one. It is fresh corrective step to long wonderful future. It is tool that analyses the moods, characters, temperaments and situations too. Do not be afraid to say, “I am sorry” and remember “I am also sorry” can solve the problems and issues of everyone in whose company you happen to be, however it is not everybody’s cup of tea, one must have guts and strength to accept and say with commitment and truth.

 

Many work place seniors are quick enough to rebuke in the morning meeting and equally quick rather more to say “Sorry” in the evening more by actions than words some sugar coated too, some offered a cup of coffee too. Such a situation when comes accept it with a smile so in the case with Saas-Bahu relation typical of my state may be others too.

 

“I am sorry”, when forced as a compromise may look like to hit one’s self esteem, but fact is it closes a black chapter without other consequences hence good enough, accept with a smile not guilt.

 

When your inner accepts that you have done wrong to someone, it is time to say “Sorry” to your own self. This self realization a divine quality many long for; say with your actions it will add positivity to your personality: a mine of goodness.        

 

To say sorry is a pearl of one’s personality not a chain; it embraces and forgives and forgets fast. Make it your best friend; add peace and positivity to your routine short, perpetual and long.    

 

"The weak can never forgive.

Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong."

Mahatma Gandhi