Tolerance a Character Gem

                                          Tolerance a Character Gem 

Without tolerance, our world turns into hell.

Friedrich Durrenmatt 

Men are respectable only as they respect.

Ralph Waldo Emerson 

Good-humor makes all things tolerable.

Henry Ward Beecher 

Since others have to tolerate my weaknesses,

 it is only fair that I should tolerate theirs.

William Allen White 

Tolerance is the mindful capacity to love, respect, accept

the differences that make people unique.

Byron R. Pulsifer 

I have been keeping this write up pending for many days, trying to find out the exact meaning of “Tolerance” in day to day life vis-a-vie various groups and individuals we come in contact daily and found it was too complex and depends on the response of the receiver made up of so many complexities and genes in addition to individual character traits.  How the receiver is disposed of towards the sender is of utmost importance. Despite all this certain behavioral aspects have their own importance like your sense of love-hate, respect-indifference, age-equality, acceptance-repulsion, likes-dislikes, inferiority and superiority complex. Situations and circumstances also affect sense of tolerance.  

Despite all this quality of response plays an important part in looking tolerant or otherwise. Voice is most important part of response. Volume, tone, tenor, shrill,  sharpness and  contemptuous nature all are important. 

Speech is silver: silence is golden: listening is much more important than speaking: to be silent and listening are the most important ingredients of tolerance. 

Many of us do not have control over language, sometimes we find it difficult to find exact words as to what they want to say. In fact, language written or spoken expression is the most imperfect way of communication it includes not only the spoken word but your feelings also particularly the negative traits. 

Facial expressions are important way of expression, they say what is not spoken they convey what is at your heart and mind, they must commensurate with the spoken words otherwise the receiver is too intelligent to understand the reality. 

Body language does not directly conveys anything, it does supplement what is behind the scenes; so be careful; control your hands and legs movement while expressing otherwise wrong signals are sure to generate.  

Impression at the mind of the sender and receiver about each other are very crucial ingredients of communication and the level of tolerance too. More they are positively disposed of in favour of each other higher would be the level of tolerance to face difficult situations; more they think against each other a single spark is enough for the flames of anger to go to the sky with smoke still higher. 

Tolerance is a choice, not a compulsion, anybody can be tolerant with anybody –your own people and others too, it is much more difficult than to be violent and aggressive, if you are aggressive  that is bound to give aggressive results and sometimes fatal too if you happen to be violent with unfriendly people. In simple words you can be intolerant, aggressive and abusive with normally your own people and not with the strangers where the most expected response is tit for tat. Just see your compulsion or freedom: we ill treat our own people – friends spouse, parents, this is beyond logic but still happening every day. 

Still tolerance is a gem that helps to solve problems and issues and earns appreciation everybody longs for. Intolerance is the mother of many problems, issues and ill-wills. It generates a feeling of repulsion or avoidance in people you happen to communicate. 

Once one assumes an attitude of intolerance,

there is no knowing where it will take one.

Intolerance, someone has said,

is violence to the intellect and

hatred is violence to the heart.

Mahatma Gandhi 

Be tolerant with others and strict with yourself.

Marcus Aurelius